In an article by the Wall Street Journal, it was noted that “gatekeeping” or interference by the other parent, when the other parent is taking care of the children is generally not in the best interest of the children. According to the article, women and men alike can trigger gatekeeping, which can cause conflict between the parents, dissatisfaction with parenting routines, and ultimately be a disadvantage to their children. An example is cited, wherein a mother was tempted to interfere when “her husband roughhoused with their sons, and she kept worrying he would drop them accidentally. After a few moments she acknowledged that her husband knew what he was doing and would not let the boys get hurt.”
In the context of a divorce, “gatekeeping” by one parent can take new heights. The policy of California is to encourage continuing and frequent contact between the children and both parents. However, it is not uncommon for the non-custodial parent to raise allegations that the custodial parent is alienating the child against him/her (generally the father) or that the custodial parent is using the child as leverage in order to obtain more favorable property or support orders. For example, “you are not paying me child support therefore you can’t see your son”. Or there are other circumstances, where the non custodial parent may seek more time with their children for reasons that do not serve their best interest, e.g., want to reduce their child support.
California courts take these allegations serious and if proven may even hold the other parent in contempt of court (if the custodial parent is violating existing visitation orders) punishable by a monetary fine or jail time, and in the worst of cases a complete change in child custody and award the non-custodial parent full custody of the child.
Divorce is a difficult time for everyone, however if parents communicate with each other, encourage visitation, and try to keep their children’s interest above their own, divorce may be a transitory and fleeting period for everybody.
By: Patricia Rayos, Pasadena Family Law Attorney



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